Each human being lives particular experiences that shape his personality and give him a life reading, which generates different interpretations of the same world. It is evident that unanimity occurs, especially when we talk about proven scientific facts, for example, that water boils between ninety (90) and one hundred (100) degrees Celsius, that we are a set of molecules, or that the earth is round. However, even if they are established truths, there may be people who assume it according to their "truth"; for a blind person or a child, the feeling is that the earth is flat, even for many adults; since the curvature of the earth is imperceptible to most beings.
The observer effect
A person in itself is a world and although there are affinities, similarities, or common ideas, such as: gender, profession, culture, religion, language, etc., issues that unite us; However, it is true that each one assumes and interprets life according to their inner reality, this is what some call: the observer effect It is a concept of quantum physics that means that as a phenomenon is observed, it suffers a behavior, that is, it is the observer who conditions the observed. Reality turns out to be built by the subject.
The experiences we live are given by inheritance, personal character and the environment in which we develop. These factors determine that each person acts, thinks and perceives life in a particular way. Take an example, a while ago when I moved out of the house and received a visit from a friend, she told me: -the house is like a little small-. Days later another friend came to visit me, she told me: -Go home so big! -. They are two handsome visions of the same object (the house). The explanation I found is that, the first, lives in a house twice as large as mine and the second, in one that is half. The conclusion is that both are right, according to the experience that each one lives.
The various interpretations cause difficulties in communication; Many times when expressing an idea or opinion we find that the interlocutor understands something different and perhaps opposite to what we mean. And as much as we strive to make him understand, he continues with his interpretation. We have a more general sample in religions; There are sacred texts that establish “the truth”, however, different interpretations arise that derive in quantities of conglomerations of the same religion. It also happens in the same way with the laws, they are written, however, there is a need for certain agencies, judges or lawyers to interpret them and present arguments to solve a legal dispute. Even a written document is susceptible to various interpretations.
To be right
The human being in his eagerness to coexist has established certain universal norms, laws or commandments that lead us to solve the vicissitudes of diversity. However, interpretation leads to disagreements, struggles and perhaps wars; when each side seeks to be right and impose its power. In our labor and social relations it happens in the same way and not to mention privacy, at home, in bed and even with ourselves. Interpretations and consequences, such as: divergences, opposition or disagreements are typical of the nature of life, generate balance and stability. Now, when the obsession for being right is manifested, it causes aggressiveness, abuse, struggle, war or destruction; producing imbalance and putting human survival at risk.
When you suffer from an obsession to be right, you want to convince yourself, argue, argue, manipulate and impose, if necessary. The person refuses to listen and try to understand others. So, if the other or the others do the same, it is here that the conflict is born. In a conflict to be right, it is common for everyone to position themselves radically and become deaf and prevent the interlocutor from expressing himself.. In this discussion, emotions, feelings and actions are mixed, which are the threshold towards the struggle, and perhaps war and the consequent destruction. It is not about submitting, or lowering the head, nor imposing, but rather making us aware that there are different forms of interpretation, which are according to what each person experiences and the information that embeds them.
Accepting that each person is a world and interprets according to their interior, will provide us with a level of understanding, which, while persevering the disagreement, at a minimum, will maintain a degree of respect for what the other thinks, says, does or writes. It will allow us to hear and perhaps "put ourselves in each other's shoes." Being all mentioned, fundamental virtues for healthy living.
To start finding pacts or agreements it is convenient to practice a active listening, that is, digest the words and nonverbal expression of the interlocutor, concentrating so much on the other, that we get to connect with his feeling; recreating in their expressions as if they were their own. This requires exercise to acquire the habit, but once established will arise automatically. This is the beginning of a assertive communication.
People constantly ask themselves what to do to help the world be better and that there is not so much war and violence? One answer would be: Heal violence and war within us, is the best way to build peace, since from there it will expand to our partner, family and society. Transforming ourselves into beings of harmony and harmony.
One of the principles of peace lies in understanding this phrase: "there are so many interpretations of the world as observers," in other words, We live life as we interpret it, we interpret it according to what we are and we are the projection of our hologram, that is, of the information that exists in each of our cells.